NOTE: If you work full time yet desire to stay home, this post is not for you. My heart 100% truly and utterly goes out to you, I know how difficult it is to leave your children each day. I was in your shoes once. I know your heartache.
It’s not yet 8am here on this Friday morning. It is winter and it is cold out. Snow on the ground cold.
I made hot chocolate for my 5 youngest children. Then I made homemade whipped cream. I circled our table and put a spoonful in each child’s cup of cocoa. When I turned back to look at my 3 year old, she had that “Got milk” smile caused by the chocolate and whipped cream.
Adorable, of course.
My first thought? Some women are heading to work right now. They have put themselves in a position of not being able to stay home and make cocoa and homemade whipped cream for their 3 year olds. I’m sure they would do it in a minute though. But, that decision was made years ago, before children, before marriage. They were lied to.
They were told they should be able to support themselves, “just in case.” Lie
They were told they should get a college education in case they needed it someday. Lie
They were told that being a homemaker was a waste of a good life and they were better than that. Lie lie lie.
This post is for the young, independent women who are creating college debt by choice. You may regret it one day.
This post is for the moms who are urging their daughters to put off marriage and family for that idol of a college degree. You are potentially creating heartache for her.
Why do I say all this? Why do I post such bold words?
It’s because of this blog, I’ve met so many ladies now, and have had so many conversations with women who are trying to be a homemaker, desperately trying, while working a full time job as well. They want to be home. They can’t.
They want to see the “got milk” smiles of their babies early on a Friday morning when it is snowing outside and everyone is still in their jammies. They don’t have that luxury.
These women would trade in their day jobs in a heartbeat to stay home and wipe noses and change diapers.
Are you a full time homemaker? Don’t despise it, you are blessed.
Are you a homemaker with teen daughters and are encouraging them to go to college and acquire debt? Reconsider.
I hesitate hitting that “publish” button up there. But some need this. Lives may be changed.
I don’t want my daughters to be forced into asking me to babysit my grandchildren someday because I forced her into college and debt today. You?
UPDATE: Thank you for the comments, each of you. Whether you agree or not. I’ve read them all. If you are unnerved by what I wrote, know that I am not anti-education. We aren’t even anti-college. We are however, anti-debt in most cases. College doesn’t guarantee anyone, male or female, financial security at any stage of life.
We all know college graduates who are employed in a line of work not even remotely related to the degree they hold. College isn’t a magic ticket to a secure life. You may have gone to college and are blessed by it today. Praise God. There are still many, many more women who cry on the way to work because college and career wasn’t the life it was made out to be and now they’re stuck. Short of filing for bankruptcy, they don’t have the choice of staying home. And looking back, it’s not a choice they would have made intentionally. They strive to save their own daughters from the pain they go through each day.
No matter what I say here, there are still those who will put words in my mouth and become angered by my 500 word post.